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Parkinsons - the slippery slope to dementia


To go to this eBook's Amazon page, where you can preview the text for free, or order and download a copy, go to www.amazon.co.uk and search for Parkinsons - the slippery slope.

I am delighted to host this book written by Bill King (a pseudonym) to keep his identity and that of his wife and relatives confindential.

There is a YouTube introduction to the book which you can see here: Parkinsons Introduction.

Additional material will be printed in subsequent editions and if you click here, you can see a sneak preview of any recently added stuff.

This is a personal account of my experiences as a carer for my wife, together with as much advice and comfort I can offer to anyone confronted with similar circumstances. After the chapter headings, you'll find a couple of sample extracts from the book.

Chapter headings:

  • Chapter one - My story
  • Chapter two - Before the diagnosis
  • Chapter three - Being the main carer
  • Chapter four - Help!
  • Chapter five - The trivial round, the common task
  • Chapter six - Respite
  • Chapter seven - Keeping your head above water
  • Chapter eight - The psychotic episode
  • Chapter nine - Confronting the issues
  • Chapter ten - Guilty or not guilty
  • Conclusion

Two sample passages coming up.

First sample:

The trouble about being a carer is that you have to juggle two different roles simultaneously, or alternate rapidly between them. And, as I had indicated, there couldn't be anything more polarised than a loving relationship on the one hand and a detached and skilled caring one on the other. There's another important issue which kind of fits in here, and that is the question of your expertise as a carer in the awesome presence of consultants and others who have had the benefit of years of training and experience in Parkinsons, dementia and related ailments. In your defence, you should point out that this is the first time you have encountered this particular situation and are making it up as you go along.

By contrast, the professionals deal with similar patients on a daily basis and take a lot as said which we cannot be expected to be aware of. On the other hand, even though you are flying by the seat of your pants, so to speak, you do accumulate and exploit a very great deal of personal expertise along the way. There is another element to this, which the professionals can tend to overlook. You too are an expert - in your sufferer as a person, and this can be crucially important to guiding their attitude to the sufferer and should feed into their decision-making. So my advice is that you should not be overawed by anyone. Ever.

Second sample:

None of this is easy, and it doesn't get easier. It is even more challenging when you encounter the ignorance of folk who have not come into contact with a volunteer full-time carer dealing with a situation like yours. Be tolerant of them, and above all, if they are prepared to listen, talk to them about the pitfalls, challenges and satisfactions involved. Yes, I did write 'satisfactions', as it can be very rewarding when your sufferer recognises, even obliquely, the hard work and love you put into your role.

REVIEWS

I have just finished reading your book. Thank you for allowing me to share your experience. Having worked in a care home followed by a spell in home care, I have witnessed this scenario many times, also personally, with each of the main carers being brought into a hopeless situation. This has been a sensitive, touching read and an experience echoed by millions throughout the land, but you have given a little light relief and understanding to the harsh reality and the book gives a true insight to make others feel they are not alone. (LMG)

You have given your wife love by the bucket load. It is clear that it has been a love match. You have done your best. Will she remember this? Who knows, but you will know this and I sincerely hope it will eventually bring you some comfort. You have in the greatest way bared your soul as well as given information of great value. I cannot tell you how impressed I am with the content. For me, it strikes the perfect note. It is as said informative, touching and with the degree of humour necessary. I thought you expressed yourself very well. I am sure it will resonate with many readers (MH).